Life Made Simple

I would achieve epic success above any expectations if I could shed light on the answer to the turmoil , My life can rise above being marred by disappointment, perceptional and irrational fear of loneliness caused by and consumed in my own toxic thoughts:.
I only wish I had it in me to be more effective, proficient in the art of showing or sharing, educating one basic truth that holds the key.
It is this: Once grown and out of the nest… no matter how that nest had raised and nurtured us, our state of mind, peace and happiness or whatever we find in life is completely and ultimately up to us alone. We hold 98% of power over our own lives – no one else does. Not even God has that power over us. We must choose it or it will not be. It’s all a state of mind.

Unfortunately, we often hand over that control to others by giving them permission to treat us badly. This is done in many different ways ranging from apologizing to them for not being good enough to, being vicious or negatively provocative ourselves.

The most damaging surrender of power is when we fail to rise above disappointment or abuse continuing to live wounded and victimized regardless of how far in the past it is.

Staying true to one’s own self and well being, letting go, even letting God, consistently living purposeful and consciously, moving on is, courageous living that doesn’t usually come easily. However, it is a choice and a gift that not only shines light on your life but also warms those that truly love you.

We can’t control actions or events brought on by others but we can choose how we react to, perceive, or take away from, them.
Ironically simplistic in that it is, the most complicated, hard as hell lesson to actually live and apply to everyday life.


I stopped handing over control when I refuse to accept that I deserve to be treated in any degrading belittling way. I am not some bottom feeder. I am not cruel or a thief. You might believe that it is selfish to have preservation for myself. But without self worth how could be worthy? I would not expect anything different than I am willing to extend or return myself. But I don’t need attention so that I will accept cruelty or put my energy into a dishonest selfish person that will bring disappointment and pain rather than growth, companionship.

Although the rationale within me would not have it any other way, it is nonetheless difficult to accept that I cannot expect or demand anything of another. How they behave, or how they treat and relate to me is their choice - alone. I do have the power to expect of myself a level of behavior and compassion for other’s that at least conveys we are all worthy of the same.

Too often I feel the hardest thing in life I find is having the energy and strength to love myself enough to shine.